Comparing yourself to someone else will begin to destroy you and deteriorate your own self worth. In this day of age, social media has become a place and platform that we all visit on a daily basis. The sad truth is that social media can often overwhelm many of us rather than inspire us. It has become a place that we visit and compare ourselves to others. How many times have you compared yourself to someone or something you saw on Instagram? We are all guilty of having judgmental behaviours, which can be damaging for others and for ourselves.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” was once said by Theodore Roosevelt and we couldn’t agree more. By comparing yourself to someone else, you are doing yourself a major disservice. Do updates from others make you feel envious, or energy consuming? This may be a time to reflect and take action on how you treat yourself.
There are two types of comparison. One is, when you compare yourself to someone that you perceive as better off than you are. The other type of comparison is, when you compare yourself to someone that you believe you are better than. Next time you compare yourself to someone that is "better" than you, take a step back and think. If you just simply shift your perspective, you are also "better off" than someone else. Your perception of what is best and better will rob you of your own incredible life.
Being kind to yourself is so critical in our growth, confidence and overall health. When you are comparing yourself to others this can also be detrimental to your growth, confidence and health! Everything that you do will be judged and possibly compared and that's okay. People are going to have an opinion of any choice that you make, even if it should only affect your life. Self- reflection is different than comparison.
Self-reflection brings awareness to your strengths and weaknesses. When you become aware of your strengths and weaknesses, your confidence evolves. By recognizing your skills you are now able to transform them into something even more powerful or even make the changes that you need to make to make you feel successful, healthier, kinder or even happier. It is okay to ask yourself key questions and with those improve and evolve qualities about yourself along the way through a more positive life. The more that you reflect on your own beliefs and values, the more that identity will remain true. When you are sure of your beliefs and values, you understand what you stand for and what really matters to you.
We have to become aware of where we best fit in and who makes us feel most like ourselves. Becoming aware of this will forever change you as a person. Your confidence will take off and you will become uplifted and stronger than ever. Your peers, family and friends should never make you feel as though you are playing a constant game of comparison. When you begin to build your own confidence, and surround yourself with people that are kind, this helps you evolve into you; the person that you were always meant to be.
Remember, being kind starts from the kindness within. Be kind to yourself. Recognize that you are worthy of so many incredible things and that the journey that you are on is still incredible even if someone else may be in a brighter light on a higher stage. Become aware of, and avoid, your triggers. Be grateful for the good in your life, and resist any lies that shout “it’s not enough”. Life is magical when you show yourself kindness and show others kindness too.